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What is asexuality?

    Asexuality is an orientation where an individual does not experience sexual attraction. However, asexuals may have romantic orientations. The lack of sexual attraction does not imply that they is always no sex drive. Asexuals have ranging libidos.


Is this some religious thing?

    You are thinking of celibacy, which is the choice to not participate in sexual activities. Asexuality is no choice, just like being transgender or homosexual. In fact, lots of asexuals are frustrated with themselves and wish they could change when they first realize they are different.


Why would you want to be asexual?

    As mentioned above....it isn’t a choice


How do you know if you’ve never tried?

Hey look at that raging bonfire over there. Go give those sizzling embers a nice hug. What? You don’t want to? Why not? Have you ever hugged hot coals before? No? Then how can you be so sure you won’t like it?


Your purpose is to reproduce!! It is the point of all life!! it would be a shame for you to not pass on those genes...

    News flash: Humans have evolved to discover and do things in life other than insert a dick into a hole. If It’s your thing, great, if not, THERE IS MORE TO LIFE. If I’m a woman, I’m not just some incubator that spews out babies every nine months or so. If I’m a man, I am capable of doing more than running around making sure every last human egg has my genes to pass on.


You just need a good old lay ;)

    You just need a good old restraining order ;)


What is romantic vs sexual orientation?

    Most people don’t use these terms because romantic and sexual orientation typically match.

    Romantic orientation: what gender(s) you are attracted to romantically and emotionally

    Sexual orientation: what gender(s) you find sexually attractive.

    Here’s an example of, let say, a panromantic asexual: someone who disregards gender and can be attracted to anyone romantically, but finds no gender sexually appealing.


    Basically, replace “sexual” in any sexual orientation with “romantic”, and there is the romantic equivalent. So that brings us to Aromantics. Yup. No romantic attraction.


How can you possibly be aromantic??? Are you a robot :0 (And asexual seemed weird enough...)

FIRST OF ALL: Aromantics are not emotionless apathetic people who love no one. Basically, an aromantic just won’t really want a romantic relationship. But can aromantics have friends and family they love dearly and closely? OF COURSE! Aromantics are people too!

Their love means just as much as anyone else’s <3


Every human fucks.

    well I guess little children aren’t humans then.


I’m pretty sure this is just another way for you to make yourself look “special”

    UGH not this again. Bisexuals and pansexuals tend to get the same thing because of a very very very very small minority of people that take on a “queer” title because it is “cool”.  They just seem like a large percentage because they flaunt it. No matter how annoying this gets, don’t make a comment like this one above. Because all of these orientations are very real, and 99% of people are not obnoxious attention whores. (Believe me, they annoy us too. Don’t let your hate out on the real deal)


Do you look down on sexual people?

    Of course not! Though most asexuals won’t have sex, there is nothing wrong with a loving, sexual couple that wants to have it. Like in every group out there, I’m sure there are a few out there who claim their asexuality makes them better, but by no means to they represent all asexuals. Be who you are!


Why whine about not wanting sex? If you don’t want it, don’t have it. End of story. The rest of the LGBT+ community has the real issues.

    Sadly, asexuals get this above comment from certain people in the LGBT+ community too often. (But not all of you! I know lots of you guys are very accepting!). It’s tough being rejected from society in general and the LGBT+ people out there. Here are some issues asexuals experience that other people in the same community go through:

  • denial that their sexuality exists

  • the idea that they have to be fixed

  • being harassed for simply being different

  • corrective rape

  • feeling alone.

    See? We aren’t so different. Asexuals deserve their place among the alphabet soup*!!!


*this means the LGBT+ community for those not up on lingo C;





How can an asexual have a sex drive?

    If an asexual has a high libido that doesn’t make them not asexual. If you have a heterosexual with a super sex drive they won’t suddenly become sexually attracted to both genders. (however, as rare as it is, there are heteroromantics that are bisexual, meaning they find both sexes sexually attractive and pleasing, but would only form a romantic bond with the opposite sex.)



    Final thoughts


    Asexual love is no less than sexual love. For a long time i made a mistake on this. I never thought i deserved someone - or deserve to be happy because I thought my love meant less


    We do not need to be fixed. You do not fix homosexuals, left handed people, people that are double-jointed, or any other minority.

    We live in a sex-centered world where a burger is best sold with the help of a model in a bikini. Sex equates to powers and virgins are nothing more than ignorant children that must be shunned.

    “But asexuals?? people who don’t want sex? Oh, dear me! Even though your sexual activity has absolutely no effect on me as a person I will take this problem into my hands and help your poor pitiful soul. Try these hormones. Nothing? Here, let’s try corrective rape. I don’t care what it takes, you will get fucked and you will enjoy it.”



For you asexuals and any of you going through a similar issue:


This is not you being Broken, Incorrect, or Less.This is You doing whatever the heck makes You happy. This is You being your utterly awesome Self.

Acknowledge

Accept

Love

Who You Are


♠♠♠Thank you♠♠♠

ESHopwood
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RainbowGlambert Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2017
I'm ace and love this
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2017  Student General Artist
I'm so glad :) Undertale SOUL - Rainbow (Fanmade) 
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RainbowGlambert Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2017
:) rainbow heart {big} Are you aro?  
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2017  Student General Artist
No, I'm panromantic!
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RainbowGlambert Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2017
Me too!! Also I love your page and we like some of the same bands! Love Queen, Muse, and Fun. Nice to meet another Hufflepuff also. Do you like the books or movies more?
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Jun 15, 2017  Student General Artist
In general, (as far as movies vs books) that's hard to say! I used to read a lot, and I went awhile without touching a book. bUt consequently, as of a week ago, I picked up a book again! Specifically for Harry Potter, I love the books!
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RainbowGlambert Featured By Owner Jun 17, 2017
I love the Harry Potter books too! I think they're way better than the movies. Don't take this wrong, but you're very good looking. Have you seen Muse live?
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2017  Student General Artist
Thank you! <3  I haven't seen Muse live!! that would be amazing, have you?
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Loki-Skywalker94 Featured By Owner Apr 2, 2017
This is wonderful! It answered some of my own questions and how to answer those of others. I especially enjoyed your commentary on how "your purpose is to reproduce". So funny!
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Apr 5, 2017  Student General Artist
Glad it helped!!Tiny Spade Animation 
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AnnabethLovegd Featured By Owner Mar 23, 2017  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This is so happy!! I'm so glad I found this today ^-^ I have been identifying as an asexual for about a couple years now, and this is a fantastic description of it. Have a nice day! Love 
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2017  Student General Artist
It's great to feel comfortable in a label :) glad you found one!
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Iglybo Featured By Owner Dec 18, 2016
:hug:
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SeaOtaku Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
This was very informative. Thank you
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Steel-Razors Featured By Owner Dec 2, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
But, but, but... eh, I got nothing.  I just want the world to be happy.  =]
All I can really say is that I hope I never fall in love with one... she wouldn't love me back, or would find me sexually appalling =/
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AnnabethLovegd Featured By Owner Mar 23, 2017  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
And, in addition to what NocturnalScribe said, many asexuals feel aesthetically attracted to someone. It's quite similar to thinking someone is sexually attractive, but without the desire to act on it in a sexual manner. 
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Steel-Razors Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2017  Hobbyist Photographer
That makes more sense to me.  Thank you.
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2014  Student General Artist
asexuals wouldn't necesarily find others appallling sexually but it's more like indifference. They can still love romantically, and the platonic love means just as much as the sexual kind :)
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takao4 Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2014
I have a fue question about this, would you mind lightning me on this topic ?

(just for the record, I didn't was aware of the existence of the Asexuality 45min ago so i'm still trying to get what exactly this is... so i'm not insulting anyone or atemting to hurt anyone, i just tri to undurstand what is it exactly)

does that mean that you can have a relationship with someone, but jut don't sleep whith Him/her ?
is that just some kind of neurological thing that just don't "allow" you to feel sexual desir ?
( cause you compared it to the fact of being homosexual, and i know that's not a desise, and that just look's like a preferance rather than somthing you endure )

I have a particular conseption of love.
I'd rather think that loving someone is not Loving them for what they looks like, or what you feel when you're with your lover :
so in that way, i'm not intresting in sex but i'm mostly focused on what she/he think... or something like that

and now the question that keep spining in my head :


does that meen i'm asexual ?


Not that i'm afraid of it but, it's kinda questioning me.
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Edited Nov 17, 2014  Student General Artist
Glad you found out about this! It's unfortunately not well known :C But I'll help the best I can!

              does that mean that you can have a relationship with someone, but jut don't sleep whith Him/her ? - basically yes, but not always...

some asexuals are aromantic and are not into relationships at all, but those who are could range in their physical intimacy. Some just cuddle(that's me!), others occasionally kiss, finding anything more unnescisary. But there are a few asexuals that have sex, whether it be from the request of their partner, or to relieve their sex drive(Confusing, I know! some asexuals have hhig libidos. they will have sex, or masterbate, butnot actually find another person sexually appealing)


             is that just some kind of neurological thing that just don't "allow" you to feel sexual desir ? 

Actually, I can't be sure. But in my eyes it's simply an orientation. It says what we are sexually attracted to. And in the case of asexuals, it's nothing!


            I have a particular conseption of love. 
            I'd rather think that loving someone is not Loving them for what they looks like, or what you feel when you're with your lover :
            so in that way, i'm not intresting in sex but i'm mostly focused on what she/he think... or something like that

Most sexuals love not for appearance or pleasure, but rather focus on thought and personality, just like asexuals! Except the thing with sexuals is that a sexual attraction is usually there as well. Now, if you lack a sexual attraction towards people and ONLY experience the emotional attachment, then that would be asexuality. 

I can't say if you are, but If you want to look more into it,there are a whole bunch of people who can explain it so much better! check out AVEN if you want! (asexuality.org) 

Thanks for reading!Llama Emoji-03 (Sparkles) [V1] 
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takao4 Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2014
Ha ! ok ! thanks so much for your responce !
Now i kinda get the all thing.

so Asexual kinda have intensity degree ( just like everything else some how )
but the basic thing is that if you're just not interseting in sex generaly, you're asexual !

...Am I right ?
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2014  Student General Artist
yup! It's all a spectrum!

yeah, If you have no sexual attraction, you may be on the lovely ace spectrum! 
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takao4 Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2014
ace spectrum ?
sorry i'm french so i kinda have some difficulties to express myself in english and undersatand these expressions... ^-^'
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2014  Student General Artist
Oh that's ok! Ask as many questions as you need!
Just like other sexualities, sex drives, and romantic activeness, being asexual has an intesity degree!

you have your asexuals who dislike emotional and sexual relationships so they just form friendships:doublehug: revamp
you have asexuals that just lack sexual attraction, but can be romantic and maybe snuggle or kiss Huggle! 
you have demisexuals and grey asexuals, too. They will only experience a sexual attraction after a very close bond is formed.:kiss: 

In contrast, sexuals feel emotional and sexual attraction, :hotkiss Hug  and they can still be sexually attracted to somone even if they know little about themMistletoe chase  (but this does not mean they value body over personality though)
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takao4 Featured By Owner Edited Nov 18, 2014
these part i've get it do not woried,
I was actualy asking about the meanig of the expression you used : "ace spectrum"
witch i don't think it's a poker gost ^^

So..... i gess i'll have to buy a black ring now ;-)

Thank you so much for taking the time that have made me discover a new concept, and a part of me as well !
Fue people in the net would have done that and i'm greatfull to you about that !
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2014  Student General Artist
Thanks! I'm really glad I could help! If you ever wante to talk about it, message me anytime!
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MandyB82 Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2014
This is great! :D
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2014  Student General Artist
thanks!!:D (Big Grin) 
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MandyB82 Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2014
You're welcome! :D
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WuckingFeirdo Featured By Owner Oct 26, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
THE RESTRAINING ORDER HAD ME DEAD LOOOOOL
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NocturnalScribe Featured By Owner Oct 26, 2014  Student General Artist
XD It's hilarious that people actually say things like that

it like, don't flatter yourself, sweetie o_O
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WuckingFeirdo Featured By Owner Oct 26, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Lol frfr just no .
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